Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Men involved in divorce and custody situations tend to let their anger or simple ignorance of the system rule their actions. For an unfortunately long period time, men have suffered from a myriad of misinformation relating to their position of father and parent. Recent research has shattered many of the myths that have identified men as inadequate fathers or Deadbeat Dads. Noted authors such as Sanford Braver and Warren Farrell have provided us with solid research that clearly shows men as capable and worthy parents.
For years we have heard that men can't be successful because the family court system is gender biased. Our research has found that this information is simply put, not true.
Census Bureau research suggests that one in every 6 divorces ends with the father getting custody.
The single father household is the fastest growing population in the United States.
Fathers are taking a greater role in the child care of their children.
Fathers who are actively involved in their children's lives are significantly more likely to pay child support
A Fathers involvement in their child's education is critical to a child's success in school.
Children of divorce that are actively involved with both parents are significantly more successful that children from single parent households with no involvement from the other parent.
The critical issue is knowledge, not rhetoric. These men who have been successful in the system are the men who have learned how to use the tools of the system and have been willing to put in the work necessary to be an actively involved parent.
Single and Custodial Fathers Network, Inc. 2002